The Family Stories That Bind Us
One the themes of this blog is Family.
There are a lot of things out there that seem to conspire against building secure, healthy families.
Things like smart phones, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, video games, single parent families, two wage earner parents, daycare, substance abuse by parents, and others you can fill in from your own observations.
These things teach kids that they aren’t important parts of their own families.
What we need a lot more of is things that teach children that they “belong”, are important, and given high priority.
These lessons are building blocks to a successful adult life.
Most kids grow up to parent their kids the same way their parents brought them up.
Can be kind of scary to think about sometimes!
The New York Times
I don’t get to read the New York Times very often but I found this story that tells how important the bedrock of a strong, secure and loving family experience is in preparing children to face the stresses and problems of life – from childhood all through adult life.
Its well written and has expert input to help form its conclusions.
Check it out.
I hit the breaking point as a parent a few years ago. It was the week of my extended family’s annual gathering in August, and we were struggling with assorted crises. My parents were aging; my wife and I were straining under the chaos of young children; my sister was bracing to prepare her preteens for bullying, sex and cyberstalking.
Sure enough, one night all the tensions boiled over. At dinner, I noticed my nephew texting under the table. I knew I shouldn’t say anything, but I couldn’t help myself and asked him to stop.
Ka-boom! My sister snapped at me to not discipline her child. My dad pointed out that my girls were the ones balancing spoons on their noses. My mom said none of the grandchildren had manners. Within minutes, everyone had fled to separate corners.
Later, my dad called me to his bedside. There was a palpable sense of fear I couldn’t remember hearing before.
“Our family’s falling apart,” he said.
Another Example of Parenting
If you would like to see my favorite parenting story check out an earlier post of mine at:
A lot of time, effort and a mixture of things that worked and some that didn’t all helped to put the kids in this family on a solid course that reflected their parents’ values but gave them “space” to develop their own.
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