The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose by Lisa Anderson

Dating Manifesto



Dating is an important topic for everyone, parent, teen, 20 something or beyond.

And its a complicated topic.

There is the emotional aspect of learning how to ask a girl out for the first time, for example. Or the same emotional aspect of learning how and why to say “yes” or “no thank you” when the girl makes her reply.

This situation can profoundly affect the direction and pace of social development for a lifetime.

And there is the moral aspect of respecting proper boundaries in dating and figuring out what these boundaries ought to be.

And a significant step beyond “moral” is the spiritual aspect of dating.

For some people there is no spiritual aspect while for others, the spiritual framework of their culture is the determining factor in dating.

You have to understand that I am not a “recognized expert” in the field of adolescent psychology or dating norms or aberrations as anyone may see these things.

But I do have some (interesting, I think) personal experience and some personal opinions on the current dating realm.

I’ll share these (I actually have already done so on this blog) so I’ll give you the links later in the post).


The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose


Lisa Anderson

Lisa Anderson

The feature attraction of this post is an article and book review of a new book by Lisa Anderson of Focus on the Family titled:

The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose.

The Amazon book description is this:

Your attitudes about marriage and the path to marriage are wrong. Some you’ve inherited, some you’ve simply bought—hook, line, and sinker—and some you’ve made up yourself. They have translated into bad action (or no action) in dating and relationships. But it’s not too late; you can break the cycle of dating dysfunction and learn to honor marriage, marry well, and live intentionally while you wait. Lisa Anderson proves it’s possible.

The Dating Manifesto is neither a cheesy formula for finding a spouse nor a feel-good book about how the person for you is “out there” if you only “believe.” Instead, it’s a challenge to wise up, own your junk, and chart a bold new course for your relationship future.


Kevin Porter, Christian Post Reporter, has written an excellent description of the book – short of a full book review – and I recommend it highly so please follow the link below.


And this endorsement by a widely read Christian writer and blogger, Joshua Rogers.

Joshua describes his writings this way.

If you check out my essays, posts, and op-ed pieces, you’ll find that I like to write about messy Christian spirituality, social issues, and family life.  I’ve written for The Washington Post,, The Washington Examiner,, Thriving Family, and Inside Journal.

Here is his endorsement:


Endorsement by Joshua Rogers


My Own Dating Experience


My dating experience was almost the “textbook” (of yesteryear) experience.

Boy meets girl; boy dates girl, boy marries girl; they live happily after.

But the beginning of the story was a bit more complex than that.

The link below takes you to an earlier post on this blog that features the story of my very first date of my life and it was written in a chapter of Precious Memories published by my first date and wife of over a half century, Lynn.

Not to put any pressure on you but she will be REALLY disappointed if you don’t read this story AND COMMENT.

Here’s the link.


The Senior Prom




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